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Opposites Attract (my belated valentine’s day post)

22 Feb

warning: the following post is a bit cheesy. ¬†if you’re not into cheese, please skip this post! ūüôā

i hardly get valentine’s day gifts because my birthday is so close to valentine’s day. ¬†this year, my husband gave me a birthday/valentine’s day gift, all in one. ¬†nonetheless, this year’s valentine’s day was very special because my daughter and i shared our valentine… ūüôā ¬†we each got a lovely card from my husband, which reminded me of my husband’s kindness, not just to us but to everyone around him.

a few weeks ago, my friend came over to spend some time together. ¬†she’s been praying for a guy who she can potentially marry in the future. ¬†she’s been waiting for awhile (mostly because she is so picky) and surprisingly, through a family member, she got introduced to this amazing guy. ¬†she described him as “more than i can ask for”. ¬†the more i heard about him and their relationship, the more i was certain that there was something special. ¬†it seemed too special to think that this relationship was directed by man – it had to be god!

it warmed my heart every time i thought about this couple and the enjoyment they are having, as they are getting to know one another. ¬†it also made me warm and fuzzy, because it reminded me of the time when my husband and i were dating. ¬†so many things happened while we were dating (too many to count), which assured me that he was the man i was to marry. ¬†mostly, it was my husband, who communicated/convinced me that we were meant to be, but regardless, one thing i was certain was that god’s hand was in our relationship. ¬†no matter what happened to our relationship at the time, i knew for a certain that god was in it.

a few weeks ago, my husband mentioned about his coworker’s relationship and how he was contemplating moving to a different city to be with his girlfriend that he’s only been dating for a few months. ¬†he wasn’t really sure if she was the one, but he thought that the possibility was high. ¬†my husband shared his experience and how he knew that i was the one. ¬†according to my husband, most guys just ‘know’ when they meet their future wife. ¬†i’m not sure if it’s true, but for my husband’s coworker, he didn’t have this certainty. ¬†my husband mentioned to me, that he also shared with his coworker that we are very different and how we balance each other out.

here is an example;

i thrive on challenges and learning new things. ¬†within 6-7 years, i’ve worked at 10 different companies. ¬†i’ve worked in the automotive, laboratory/scientific, recruitment, food, government, consumer goods and retail industries. ¬†i love learning new things and meeting new people.

my husband loves comfort and doesn’t do so well with change. ¬†he loves routines and doesn’t like facing too many challenges on a daily basis. ¬†he’s worked for a few companies and he’s always been working within the IT sector.

we are very different.

my husband and i were into ‘lin-sanity’, just like every other asian christian out there. ¬†we watched the raptors vs knicks game (we are raptors fans by default because we live in toronto, canada) on valentine’s day. ¬†it was even more special because they were playing in toronto. ¬†i knew that many of our friends were cheering for the knicks because of jeremy lin and i was too. ¬†however, my husband, who is a loyal fan of the raptors did not fail to cheer for a team that rarely gets into the playoffs. ¬†although everyone was going crazy about jeremy lin’s game winning shot, my husband was furious that the raptors collapsed and lost. ¬†i laughed and made fun of him for loving the raptors so much. ¬†i even told him that i’m going to write to the raptors, asking them to give him a fan award, recognizing his loyalty to the team. ¬†i also said that i will even get a job at the air canada centre, so that i can get him a fake award.

although i made jokes, i was secretly impressed with my husband. ¬†his level of loyalty was something that i’ve never experienced and i knew that he would also be loyal to me and our daughter.

my husband has firm beliefs and thoughts about all things. ¬†he’s not easily persuaded by different ideas or gimmicks. ¬†when he likes and believes in something, he puts in all of his trust, even if it fails him many times. ¬†this is probably why he’s so loyal.

furthermore, my husband also has this (i call it supernatural) ability to forgive others. ¬†he doesn’t have much difficulty being friends with people who have hurt him in the past. ¬†when he forgives, he really does and he does it genuinely.

he is also a genius when it comes to academics. ¬†i wish i had this ability. ¬†let’s say we both study the same stuff. ¬†he puts in 20% of his effort and i put in 110% of my effort and we end up with the same grade. ¬†we are currently studying together – i’m working toward tesl certification and my husband is working toward his bachelor’s degree. ¬†i study for weeks, locking myself in a room for many hours per day, to complete one assignment. ¬†he completes his assignments while watching tv. ¬†i got 89% on my assignment and he got 99% on his.

the qualities that my husband possess are so different from mine and it amazes me every time. ¬†i tell him that he’s got a special gift from god. ¬†when i see him, i can truly understand the meaning of god’s grace and blessing. ¬†i can see that he is favoured by god.

the funny thing is that he says the same things about me. ¬†we both wish we could have each other’s qualities.

we can never possess¬†each other’s qualities, but i’m so glad that through marriage, i can live vicariously through my husband and have a second-hand experience of what it’s like to be rational, loyal and smart!

maybe that’s why opposites attract and maybe god brings the opposites together!